Friday, April 25, 2014

U is for Understand

I think this can be a powerful message - because our life is ours to live and we let others dictate to us about our life - then is it still our life we're living, or theirs? When someone acts a certain way or someone else's behavior interferes with our own happiness, we tend to let them control us in a way. Manipulators love to do this, they know how to work you and they will pull their little puppet strings to get you to a certain state, so that you are vulnerable and that they can continue to control you and manipulate. It's when you cut those strings that you can understand this process and open your eyes to the madness of letting other's control your sanity. A friend once told me that people only treat us how we let them treat us. It took me a while and I had to let that one sink-in before I understood exactly what she meant. Don't let anyone else take away your happiness. Understand the situations and make that conscious effort to take yourself out of it and to figure out what is best for you. To many, this has meant discontinuing relationships with people and cutting them out of their lives; sometimes you have to cut the head off of the snake, especially venomous snakes that continue to lash out at you.

Don't you think the world would be a better place if we took the time to understand each other? If we're in a long line, many times people get very impatient and lash out at the cashier. They don't take that individual into consideration. People are too quick to judge the situation with a negative stereo type; it's quicker and more convenient for their negative outlook. When you take the time to understand someone, it will give you a more peaceful aspect and as we all know - the less negativism the better in our lives. If something is increasing your stress and anxiety, really try to understand and break-down the reasons why you feel that way. When something is out of our control however, it is best to 'let go and let God'. Meaning let go of the situation, surrender, and understand that there is nothing more that you can do; let God take over, pray about it, and communicate with Him that it is beyond your control and that you need Him.